In the previous article, we talked about the checklist to see if you have childcare neurosis and whether anyone can have childcare neurosis. Now, what should you do if you actually have childcare neurosis?
We’re sure there are some people who are worried, so we’d like to introduce some tips on how to deal with childcare neurosis.
Where should you go if you think you are suffering from childcare neurosis?
First of all, go to your local health center or childcare support center and talk to them about your current symptoms and how difficult it is.
It may vary depending on the area and the severity of your symptoms, but generally speaking, a public health nurse in your area should be able to visit your home on a regular basis.
Just being able to talk about the difficulties of raising a child and having her listen to you slowly can help improve your symptoms.
However, if the public health nurse, after checking your condition and child-rearing environment, decides that it is difficult to improve with the current support alone, she may recommend a visit to a psychosomatic medicine or psychiatry department. In some cases, medication and counseling can help, so please see a doctor as soon as possible.
Some pediatricians also offer consultations on mothers’ problems, based on the idea that it is important for mothers to be stable in order for their children to be healthy.
What are the criteria for diagnosing childcare neurosis? Can medication be prescribed?
If you were to visit a hospital, you might be diagnosed with “depression” or “psychosomatic illness” in many cases, as there is no such diagnosis as “childcare neurosis.”
However, since the diagnostic criteria vary depending on the mom’s symptoms, situation, and the medical institution, it is difficult to say for sure.
If the doctor decides that medication is necessary, tranquilizers, sleep-inducing drugs, and antidepressants may be prescribed. If you are breastfeeding, please inform your doctor as such and ask for instructions.
How to prevent childcare neurosis today
Anyone can suffer from child-rearing neurosis, but it can be prevented from becoming more serious if measures are taken in advance. Here are some preventive measures you can take today.
First, make your relationship with your partner smooth.
When you are not feeling well, it is very reassuring to know that there is someone you can tell about it and get their support. In particular, a smooth relationship with your husband (or partner) will help prevent childcare neurosis. In order to maintain a smooth relationship, it is important to have frequent discussions with your husband or partner and to make a habit of verbalizing your concerns to him or her.
After the birth of a child, it becomes much more difficult for couples to find time for themselves and to sit down and talk, but they can start with small things such as spending time sharing the events of the day.
Find your own ways to change your mood.
“Eating your favorite sweets while your child is napping”, or “watching your favorite TV drama after putting your child to bed at night” are all great ways to refresh yourself. You should prepare a variety of small rewards for yourself.
It is also important to set aside some time to go out alone. Because children are so important, sometimes it is necessary to take time away from them to relax and put your own feelings and preferences first. Ask your husband (partner) or other family members to watch your child, or if that is not possible, use local temporary childcare services to get some alone time.
Find someone to share your worries and anxieties with.
The worries, hardships, and bewilderment of raising a child can be cleared up considerably by simply talking to someone.
It can be a mom with a child around the same age, a senior who has experience raising children, or even your own siblings. It is a good idea to find someone with whom you can casually chat about parenting.
Don’t compare your child or yourself to other children or mothers
When raising a child for the first time, many mothers inevitably compare their child to other children, worrying that your child is growing too slowly or that your child is not able to do something even though they are about the same age.
The development of infants and toddlers varies greatly from person to person, and there is no such thing as “early is OK” or “late is not OK.”
Rather than comparing your child to other children, try to see how he or she has changed compared to the child of yesterday or the child of three months ago.
Consult with your pediatrician frequently.
If you have any concerns about your child’s growth or development, or if you are unsure about something, please consult your pediatrician. Your pediatrician will be able to determine if it is a serious symptom or developmental problem based on your child’s usual behavior. Early detection and removal of anxiety in mothers will help keep childcare neuroses at bay.
Consult and share information with your family doctor as often as possible, even if it is something small.
Anyone can suffer from childcare neurosis. If you feel that something is wrong, take action as soon as possible. It is important to consult with a specialist, such as a public health nurse or your pediatrician, instead of being patient. For the sake of the child’s healthy growth, you should raise your child in a safe environment where you can relax and feel at ease.