Do you find yourself stressed out by the unfamiliarity of child-rearing and feel exhausted and unstable? Mothers who are raising their children may suffer from “childcare fatigue,” and when childcare fatigue builds up, it can lead to childcare neurosis.
In this article, we will tell mothers who are suffering from child-rearing fatigue about the causes of that fatigue.
Main causes of childcare fatigue
Raising a child is a very difficult task, and there is no single cause of childcare fatigue. There is no single cause of child-rearing fatigue, but rather a combination of various causes that can cause a great deal of stress in the mind and body of the child-rearing mother. Let’s take a look at some of the possible causes of child-rearing fatigue.
- Lack of sleep
When babies are first born, they need to be fed and diapered every few hours, which means that you have to take care of them 24 hours a day. Many babies do not sleep well and do not stop crying no matter what you do, making it difficult for mothers to get a good night’s sleep.
Just when you think your baby’s sleep rhythm has finally started to settle, he or she starts to cry at night. If sleep deprivation continues for a long time, fatigue will accumulate both mentally and physically.
- Physical fatigue
Mothers are very busy with housework and work, in addition to childcare. If you are not able to take a break, physical fatigue will accumulate. The accumulation of physical fatigue can be a great burden mentally as well.
- Physical and mental exhaustion from lack of communication
In the case of babies and small children who are not yet able to communicate verbally, it can be stressful for you to not know why their child is crying, why they are not sleeping, why they are not eating, or why they are in a bad mood.
In addition, the earliest age of two to three years old is a time when the child’s ego is developing. Some mothers find themselves mentally overwhelmed by their child’s increasing verbal and behavioral defiance. And, the physical fatigue of mothers who have to cope with such a situation will also reach its peak. The accumulation of this physical and mental fatigue can lead to childcare fatigue.
- Frustration with the words of those around you and uncooperative family members
The causes of mental fatigue are not limited to childcare itself. The words of people around you, such as your parents, in-laws, and friends, may cause you to stress, or you may become frustrated with your husband who is not proactive in raising your child. The accumulation of stress from the people around you can also be a cause of child-rearing fatigue.
It’s okay to be “not perfect”. To relieve childcare fatigue
If you try to do your housework and childcare perfectly, you will become overwhelmed and tired. Even if you are not able to do what you want, it is important to think, “As long as I can do this, for now, it’s okay!” It’s okay if your room is a little messy or if your meals consist of only prepared foods from the supermarket. You are doing a great job of raising a child, so you don’t need to do everything perfectly.
Babies are supposed to cry, so until they get into a rhythm of life, they will cry regardless of whether it is morning or night, and the rhythm of mom’s life may be greatly disrupted. If you don’t get enough sleep, you will feel physically and mentally exhausted. In such cases, it is best to take a nap with your baby. Just trying to get as much sleep as possible will reduce the fatigue of raising a child.
It is also recommended that you use the time while your child is napping as your own refreshment time and make time to do what you like. During the child’s nap time, housework tends to go more smoothly, so it’s easy to work hard.
You are not the only mom who is struggling to raise a child. If you have mommy friends in your neighborhood, you can share the same problems with them, and you will feel that you are not the only one who is struggling, which will lighten your burden and help your mind recover. If going out is too stressful for you, I recommend that you use social networking sites to find mommy friends.
Moms don’t have to do it alone. Ask your parents or partner to help you, use temporary childcare, or spend some time away from your child. In addition to the temporary childcare services offered by local municipalities, there are also many private services that offer temporary childcare. That’s how many mothers are using them.
As a hard-working mother, childcare fatigue can accumulate without you even knowing it. Let’s find our own ways to relieve childcare fatigue and put them into practice before we work too hard and become childcare neurotic.