How You Can Cope With The Emotional Ups and Downs of Undergoing Fertility

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There is about 10-30% of couples who have unexplained infertility after the first evaluation fails to provide an obvious abnormality. There’s nothing wrong with undergoing your chosen fertility treatments because these methods might help couples in conceiving their child. However, such couples may feel burden and stress as a whirlwind of emotions immensely affects their perspective. 

In this article, we will discuss different types of fertility treatments and important ways that you can do while coping with the emotional ups and downs of fertility treatments.


In order to initiate the standard fertilization, eggs must be fertilized by about 50,000 to 100,000 sperm which are placed around the eggs. But, this can be very different when someone or a couple prefers to go in their selected fertility treatment. Actually, there are different kinds of fertility treatments that people should know. Here is the information about the treatments below:

Different Types of Fertility Treatments

  • Intrauterine Insemination (IUI)

One of the least invasive fertility treatments being offered is intrauterine insemination or IUI. This type of fertility treatment is a process when a doctor takes the sperm of the male partner and inserts it into the uterus. This can be inexpensive, easy to perform, and a minor burden to the couples. In this method, the semen is processed in the laboratory and the motile spermatozoa are concentrated in a small volume which is inseminated directly into the uterine cavity. 

  • In vitro fertilization (IVF)

Also known as assisted reproductive technology (ART), in vitro fertilization is a type of fertility treatment that involves the cultivation of the fertilized egg outside and being carried out in glass containers like test tubes or Petri dishes. After the fertilized egg or zygote undergoes embryo culture for 2-6 days, it is implanted in the same or different person’s uterus to set a successful pregnancy.

  • Surrogacy 

This type of fertility treatment method is when a surrogate is willing to carry a baby for someone or a couple who is having difficulties conceiving. The surrogate is also known scientifically as the ‘gestational carrier.’ 

  • Egg/Sperm/Embryo donation 

Studies have shown that approximately 2,413 women use fresh donor eggs each year. Some fertile women donate their eggs or oocytes to other women. Typically, the donors need to take some fertility drugs in order to stimulate the ovaries in producing several eggs at once. This is similar to sperm donation in which a woman or a couple can purchase donated sperm from a sperm bank for IUI or IVF. While embryo donation is made when a couple donated their frozen embryos but decided to stop having more children later.

What are the Best Methods in Coping With Emotional Ups and Downs of Fertility Treatments

Sharon N. Covington wrote in Fertility Counseling that patients who obtained success in fertility treatments usually transition away from the reproductive medical practice towards normalcy in pregnancy, birth, and parenthood. While there may exist a higher risk of prenatal and postpartum to patients who have pregnancy after infertility, they navigate the process without crucial issues. On the other hand, those who failed in the treatments will need to decide if they will remain Childress or without more children if they have secondary infertility or seek parenthood through adoption.

However, Covington added that:

“This process of ending the fertility treatment and moving on requires a process of grief and mourning which appears to be more challenging due to the invisible nature of this profound loss – the death of the dream child.”

So, what are the best methods that you can do while coping with the emotional ups and downs of fertility treatments? Read the following methods that you can try:

Read more and research

Try to read and learn more about the different types of fertility treatments available in your area. You may ask some questions to your fertility specialist as well. Reading more and doing some research will help you to formulate informed decisions and get back your sense of control. There are various books, online forums, support groups, and websites that provide useful information about fertility treatments.

Take care of yourself

Continue to do your best in eating nutritious foods, getting enough rest, having proper exercise regularly, and allowing some time of leisure for you to relax. You may keep a reflective journal or engage with a new hobby. Talk to a trusted friend and develop supportive friendships. Also, you may engage in reflective practices like meditation to calm your mind and body. So, take care of your professional, physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual, and social well-being.

Talk with your spouse or partner

Be honest yet mindful while talking with your spouse or partner. Express your true feelings while giving him or her some love and support. Undergoing many fertility treatments can be stressful on a couple’s relationship. So, stay connected with one another and avoid allowing certain problems to consume your lives. Schedule some different activities that allow you to shift your focus and provide a diversion from stress and anxiety.

Be optimistic and realistic

Keep a balanced view of optimism while managing realistic goals. Avoid the feelings of guilt, disappointment, pressure, and negativity from being the center of your thoughts and emotions. Try to see your limitations and acknowledge what you can do today.

Seek help from counselors and other medical professionals

If you and your spouse or partner are feeling overwhelmed, worried, and unable to perform action or control, consider seeking professional help from counselors. Examine yourself or your spouse or partner. When you notice the symptoms of depression such as feeling hopeless and helpless, changes in appetite or sleeping patterns, loss of interest in common activities, and more get some help from a family counselor or psychiatrist. 


Brent Schlender said: “The sun will set and the sun will rise, and it will shine upon us tomorrow in our grief and our gratitude, and we will continue to live with purpose, memory, passion, and love.” Despite the emotional ups and downs that you are currently experiencing while undergoing infertility treatments, remember that there will be moments of happiness and hope as long as you continue to do your best in knowing about your situation, caring for your personal health, keeping the bond with your spouse or partner strong, and seeking help from others. Don’t worry and cheer up! 

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