For those of you who are raising children as dual-income couples, we know how busy you are and sometimes you get stress with raising children at the same time. We are especially proud of the mothers who work hard right after giving birth.
Of course, men, who are the mainstay of the family, also work hard every day.
Therefore, in this article, we would like to share with you some of the things that these two working couples have done to get over the time crunch and spend a little more time on their own and in bliss.
We hope you can enjoy a child-rearing life with a smile on your face.
Clearly Define the Roles of Housework
Not only for couples raising children but also for couples or cohabiting couples, the division of roles in housework and childcare is essential.
If you say…” let’s do it when one of us notices it”, but if you’re both working and raising children, one of you may do housework more than the other does and one of you may get frustrated easily.
If this is the case, then clearly divide the housework from the beginning. We think it is essential to have at least the following three divisions.
- Taking out the trash
At the very least, these three roles should be clearly defined. This is because all three are housework that occurs on a daily basis. And if you don’t clarify this, one of you does it more than the other does.
This will exhaust you both mentally and physically, and cause fights and disputes that don’t need to be fought.
It’s okay to have your partner clean up the air conditioner, ventilation fan, bathroom, toilet, and other high places that require power, and you do the floor and kitchen.
The frequency of laundry and the amount of garbage will vary depending on whether you live in a house or an apartment, the layout of the house, and the number of people in your family, so you should discuss and decide together.
If you divide up the daily housework like this, you will be able to do them more efficiently and not overwhelm either of you because you both have a clear idea of what needs to be done.
It also prevents arguments when there are shortages, and more importantly, it makes it easier to reach out for help when one of you is busy with work.
Working together, but still having time for yourself! Let’s go out in shifts!
We think the first problem that dual-income couples have is that they don’t have enough time for themselves. Schools and companies have regular hours and holidays, but raising a child is a 24/7 job.
As long as you are raising a child, you and your partner will never have a day off. That’s why it’s a good idea for you and your partner to take turns going out.
Let one of you take care of the kids for a day and have some time to yourself. Get your nails done, get a massage, go shopping, or just relax at a cafe.
When you feel frustrated or unhappy with your parenting, it’s usually because you don’t have enough time for yourself.
When you are stressed out or have not slept enough, do you find yourself yelling at your child or hitting him or her hard even though you know you shouldn’t?
Even though you are parents, you are still people. It is natural for you to get frustrated and stressed out. It’s hard when you’re both tired from work, but it’s important to take time alone to relax and refresh.
If the parents are in a good mood, the children will be in a good mood. The opposite is also natural. The foundation of parenting is a smile.
Please keep your mental health healthy so that you can see as many smiling faces as possible for as long as possible.
Use Temporary Childcare and Family Support
There are always times when you just can’t find enough time. If you are a dual-income couple, there will be times when you will be so busy with work that you will never be able to take a day off.
This can easily become stressful, so it’s a good idea to use temporary childcare or family support services in your area.
If possible, register before the baby is born and make a list of people to ask for help if something happens. Emergencies come suddenly, and if you don’t register, it’s fully booked and there is nothing you can do.
Even though you know it is for your child, you don’t want to miss as much of your work as possible.
In such a situation, it is absolutely important to have the peace of mind that there is a place to leave your child as the last decision.
In addition to family support, there are also private childcare providers nowadays. Using these services and having a meal at a restaurant with your partner once in a while can be refreshing.
After that, you can watch a movie, go to a café, and in the meantime, you’ll be thinking about your child.
When you return home refreshed, you’ll be ready to start having fun with your child again the next day. These days, fewer people say like “How can you leave your child in someone else’s care?”, however, a few people may still think like that.
But rather than worrying about it and making yourself feel overwhelmed and your child feels sad, take the plunge and leave your child with them.
There is nothing wrong with it, and it will strengthen your family ties and bring smiles to your faces. There are many things that you can learn from raising a child, and most importantly, your child is cute and lovable.
Even so, there are times when raising a child can be tough. The mothers around you may look like they are shining, but we are sure they are suffering somewhere too.
You don’t have to hide your pain, toughness, and hardship. Even if you work together, cooperate with each other, and if you don’t have enough, ask someone else to help.
If you make time for yourself and allow yourself to be yourself, you will be able to have a more fulfilling child-rearing life.